As long as sexual abuse takes place in our community spaces, nothing in our culture can be trusted. And no place is truly safe. This should alarm anyone who cares about Jewish life, not just those who have been abused.
Against the backdrop of the #MeToo/#GamAni movement, veteran anthropologist Dr. Elana Sztokman chronicles sexual abuse in Jewish settings, answering the question on everyone's mind: How is this happening?
With a portrait of high profile figures, including their personality types and tactics, Dr. Sztokman's analysis is grounded in interviews with 84 abuse victims/survivors, Jewish communal professionals, and volunteers. The book documents how communal settings are ripe for abuse, how abusers coopt Jewish values as a grooming tactic, how high-profile abusers often receive high-profile support, and how the search for support and accountability often doubly victimizes the abused. Dr. Sztokman concludes with sweeping recommendations for social and cultural change, reminding us that we are not free to desist from action, especially not now.
This book is essential reading for anyone who cares about stopping the plague of sexual abuse in Jewish life.
"Elana Sztokman has done a great service to Jewish life with her meticulous and moving book. She gives voice to victims of rabbinic misconduct, and through them and her supporting research reveals recurring patterns of abuse. She shines a light on communal structures, organizational hierarchies, and Jewish cultural tendencies that too often silence victims and allow offenders to get away with their transgressions.... By making us listen, the book should move us to action."
- Rabbi Daniel Pressman, Chair, Va'ad Hakavod (Ethics Committee), Rabbinical Assembly
"Elana Sztokman's book is an invaluable tool with which to dismantle the structures of Jewish patriarchy and unmask the shame and secrecy that enable sexual abuse and protect offenders. A must-read for anyone who cares about the safety and well-being of every member of the Jewish community."
- Letty Cottin Pogrebin, author of Shanda: A Memoir of Shame and Secrecy.
"This is one of the most important books for the Jewish world in years. Sztokman thoughtfully, calmly examines an emotionally charged issue in a way that only a true expert can. Jewish leaders and community members should consider it an essential read."
- Elad Nehorai, Writer, activist, and founder of Hevria
"Dr. Sztokman gives voice to the victims while examining the processes and consequences of abuse. In its skillful and comprehensive treatment of its subject matter, When Rabbis Abuse is a crucial work that exposes the uncomfortable and painful truth of abuse in our midst, and, with that exposure, serves as a key resource in helping us understand what happened, what must be done in the future to protect survivors, and how we might prevent abuse going forward."
- Devorah Blachor, author of The Feminist's Guide to Raising a Little Princess
