how MEN and WOMEN FIT

Discover the breakthrough concept of how our three Brains can prevent or enable our relationships to succeed and flourish.

Learn groundbreaking communication 

techniques you can use with your partner, beloved ones or colleagues. For every personal or business relationship this is the guide to success. 

Why? 

How many times have you been in conversation, and felt that you just couldn't get through to them? 

You both understood the words, but neither of you was hearing the other? Like your brain was turned off. It's frustrating. Disappointing. And it happens all the time.

How many times, after a conflict or disagreement, have you felt that it would have been different if you knew then what you came to understand later?

Why is it so hard to have a happy, healthy relationship? 

You would think that cutting-edge science would not be needed to address this question. After millions of years of evolution and tens of thousands of human societies, you'd think we'd have worked out by now how to understand, and get along with, one another. Philosophers and poets might have some insights, and I don't want to tread on their turf.

However, as a therapist, coach, and associate professor of the science of behavioral organizational leadership and communication, I wonder what we have unlearned across the years, or what have we learned that is not actually true?

Why do people say the things they do? How do some words excite our emotions and others turn them off?

What is the connection between that gut-wrenching or passionate feeling in our heart, and our communication and interactions? And how can science have proven we react to stimuli seconds before we are consciously aware of them? Who is in charge inside us?

That is this book about, it is built around crucial new insights into the science of human thinking in an easy way to understand and with clear solutions. 

Current research has upended the notion that we have in our heads a single powerful mind that is home to our thoughts, emotions, and reactions. In fact, science now tells us that we have not one, but three centers of thought and memory! Each one perceives, interprets, and reacts to the world in a distinctly different way.

 In addition to our well-known 'thinking' brain (which we will call the 'Head Brain'), we have a 'feeling' brain (which we will call our 'Heart Brain') and a third brain - at our core - whose job it is to keep us safe. We will call this 'self-preservation' brain the 'Gut Brain'.

In this book you will discover how our 3 brains determine your and yours partners life, how they are in charge of our emotions, decisions, communication, listening skills and how we handle conflicts. So actually, how successful, meaningful and happy/healthy all of your relationships are.

We can all learn what our preference is, and also recognize which is our partner's, friend's, colleague's or manager's dominant brain.

The beauty is we can educate our 3 Brains, they are not set in stone. My promise: Happy Healthy Relationships are possible

Christoffel Sneijders